How To Find Your Motivation After Losing Momentum

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I am now.

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Okay, I was just gonna say you should just
hit the record button at the beginning

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because then you could stitch all this
shit together.

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it's funny you say that because I've been
listening to a lot of Mark Maron podcasts

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lately because I used to love him when I
was doing sibling rivalry and I was like,

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maybe I should just like listen to the
stuff I used to listen to, get some

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inspiration from that.

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And I just love the sort of just like.

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Fucking just conversational, this is
what's up.

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We're not here to change lives like
whatever.

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And I was thinking we should just hit
record and like pick up from where the

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magic happens, because there's so many
times when we're like, wait, stop, we're

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getting into it.

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Hit record.

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put on performer hat, do the thing.

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So it's funny you said that, but then you
were talking about work and I was like,

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well, I don't wanna use any of that.

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Yeah, we don't have to use that.

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But I can actually start over now because
now I can...

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got that shit off your chest.

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Well that one's off my chest, but.

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Alright, well then what's your deal?

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What's going on with you this week?

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I don't know Jeremy, what is going on with
you?

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Wait, let me put my hat on.

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No, actually the last the last few weeks I
have been you know, I've had a lot of work

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stress.

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I've had a lot of you know, personal
stress not like bad things or anything

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like that but just like lots of it and
just lots of things on my plate and I And

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in the middle of it I squeezed in another
trip to Disney World I went for the

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weekend for May the 4th because I'm a Star
Wars nerd and the nerd I'm gonna just tell

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you what like I

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I'm a big Star Wars nerd.

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I had nothing on the folk that were there.

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The nerd level was off the charts and like
I had goosebumps and my daughter standing

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next to me like, what's the big deal?

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And I was like, just let me cry.

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Just let me cry.

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surrounded by my people

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Fantastic.

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It was so good.

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I needed like that stress relief and so
good.

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But like since I was doing it, I've been
doing really good at the gym.

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Like April, I think I went back and
calculated like I made it to the gym like

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65 % of the week.

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So counting all the days in the month, I
made it 65%.

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So that includes rest days and all kinds
of good stuff.

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a big jump up from the zero that you had
going there for a while.

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no, I had more in April than I did
January, February, March.

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So it was I've gotten back and it's it was
a little painful.

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and then everything.

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But in the last week now, like.

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Had a bunch of things at work and like
just, you know, being in a new

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relationship. Now it's not new anymore,
but a relationship and the time commitment

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there

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my daughter and like all the things of
life and like I usually can get a lot of

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things done and it doesn't bother me.

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But the last two weeks man, it is like,
it's a lot.

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to earth here with us mortals.

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Yeah, I don't know.

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It is weird because in the past, I was
able to fill my day with more things than

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I guess the average person could do.

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And now it's...

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that?

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That's weird.

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How are you able to pull that off?

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don't know, it's just exceeded, it's
exceeded the plate that I can fit it on.

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only have me to worry about most of the
time that allowed you to be so productive?

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possible it is totally possible But
getting up early in the morning stuff for

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me still like I'm having trouble with
that.

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I haven't been sleeping as well.

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So Definitely a week of reflection for me
and You know all the things that we do and

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why we do them and all that and I feel
like I've come on for the last four months

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been like Hey, we do a podcast and we know
all the stuff that we need to be or need

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to do to be healthy.

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I

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And for the last three months, I haven't
been doing it and I can't figure out why.

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And it's, you know, like that joke of
like, you know, why can't I lose weight?

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Are you exercising?

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Are you eating good?

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No.

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No.

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and wonder why you're not losing.

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I wonder why my anxiety is high, right?

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My depression is fine.

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That's all good.

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Like anxiety is just off the charts like.

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And for anyone who.

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has heard older episodes, like my anxiety,
I have like physical manifestations of

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anxiety in my body.

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Like I get inflamed and my nerves start to
fire and like I'll get like twitchy and

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like you can tell when my anxiety's firing
really, really hard.

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And man, it's been going, like I've got
one of my fingers have been twitching

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lately and like, you know, things hurt
that don't hurt normally just because it's

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just there.

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So it's been a really great week of, you
know, we say it all the time, like we

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would always get upset when we have these,
you know, these, these periods in our

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lives where we like revert back to things
that we thought we'd outgrown or gotten

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away from when, you know, and you get
pissed off.

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You're like, I gotta, I gotta, I gotta get
back up.

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I gotta, I gotta do, I gotta do the thing.

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And I've just been telling myself the
whole time.

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It's like,

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Hey, look, here is just another data point
as to why you do all the things that you

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do.

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This is a good thing.

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This is a positive thing for you to
experience this and reinforce and know

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that you've got a baseline of things that
you have to do to stay happy and healthy.

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And you're gonna have an even longer
period next time before you come down to

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this again.

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It'll happen again, but this is a good
thing.

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So I'm really trying to, you know.

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What's a see the good in every situation
or something like that?

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Yeah, it's okay.

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Like it's it's it's not bad.

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Like it it definitely doesn't you know
knowing that I can fix it and that I know

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what to do and that these are the things
that are gonna make it better and it's

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gonna be slow and it's gonna be you know a
little bit of a battle for me and I'm

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already moving in the right direction,
right?

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I'm moving my body.

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I'm

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I'm definitely eating better.

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I was I was definitely eating a lot of ice
cream for a little while just to you know,

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a little stress eating or whoa, whoa is me
medicine, I think.

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But but yeah, I'm just taking this
opportunity to really try and soak it in

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and be like, you know what?

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This is why we do the things that we do
and why you got to be consistent.

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You can't go to the gym once and expect to
be strong.

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You got to go every day.

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You got to meditate every day.

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You got to practice your breathing.

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Every day all these things that we preach
and like and I'm human too, right?

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I guess for a long time you held me up on
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God probably not But no

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seemed like you were up there, like kind
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pedestal.

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didn't want to be acknowledged, but I was
really, I was in such a good, I was in

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such a good flow, I guess, for so long
that I was like, well, I'll never have a

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moment like that again.

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And then, so I kind of was on a pedestal
in that standpoint in my own mind.

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And I got knocked down hard and I'm just
like, I gotta crawl back up now.

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And like, we're all human, we all fall
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So don't beat yourself up when this shit
happens.

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Yeah, it's so easy when things are going
well and everything's awesome.

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You've got your system dialed in to sit
there, you know, because people will tend

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to start asking like, you seem like you're
doing great.

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What's going on?

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I'm up at 4 o 'clock in the morning and I
do this and then this thing and then I go

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and run it, you know, run these 13 miles.

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And it just seems so simple because when
you build it up, it becomes so simple.

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And it's just a part of what you do every
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But.

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That's not the reality for most of us.

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For most of us, it is.

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It's the kids, it's the job, it's the nine
to five, the commute, all of the things

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that get in the way.

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And then we wonder, God, why don't I have
any time for self care?

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And it's like, because you've built this
house of cards that's paying the bills,

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but that's about where it's ending, right?

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So you're super stressed out, you're
exhausted, you don't know what to do.

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I feel like I'm kind of getting a taste of
where you were, because for...

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six months, I haven't been depressed, like
I think maybe collectively, like two hours

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of the last six months, where it was every
couple three weeks, I'd be out for a

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weekend, or, you know, multiple days.

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And it is because of all of the little
things that I do every single day, and

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I'm, and I'm able to do more and more
because I'm building a life that caters to

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that, that allows that to be the case.

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Not everyone has that luxury.

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Not everyone can just decide like, this is
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20 minutes.

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this is when I'm going to go get in the
cold punch.

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this is when I'm going to go run in a
mountain.

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Like I have the freedom to do that because
of the life that I've built.

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But most people don't have that luxury.

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And that's where I think we get kind of
stuck and really struggle to make that

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time for ourselves.

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Yep.

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And I'm not going to say that like I have
introduced things into my life that are,

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you know, holding me back from doing that.

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I still have the time to do it.

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I've also been making the wrong choices
over the last few months too.

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And like prioritizing things that I could
get done later or shouldn't do in the

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first place.

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So, you know, it's just, I was sick, not
thinking right.

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I've got like all kinds of reasons or...

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Whatever there is.

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But now it's time to bounce back, right?

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And that's the important part is like, you
will have setbacks.

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You're gonna have these moments where
things go haywire, but that's your moment

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to really kind of dial in a little bit
better and like, okay, where can I find

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the time?

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Where can I have a little bit of me time?

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To your point, you built the life that you
have.

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So you can do these things, but that
didn't take you six months.

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I mean, this is something you've been
working on for six, exactly.

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Well, you've actually been putting effort
into introducing all these things into

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your lifestyle over the last, what, four
or five years, maybe?

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I mean, especially with with, you know,
everything we did to relocate and

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everything.

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Yeah, it's been I mean, we're coming up on
three years since we moved and add all of

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the wellness journey that stuff that
started, you know, a decade before that.

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But with all this, I mean, this is the
thing with all this.

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I was just talking to another podcaster
about this the other day.

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None of the stuff that we do here that we
talk about that like builds this life that

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we're so happy and proud of.

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None of its rocket science.

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None of its real hard.

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Right.

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It is.

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It's get enough sleep.

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Don't eat like complete garbage all the
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move a little bit, like doing these little
things every single day eventually

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accumulates and you find that, wow, I feel
great and things are going better for me.

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But it's so hard to make that time for
yourself and it's hard to.

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know what the priority is.

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And there's so I mean, especially if you
if you're like me, and you spend way too

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much time doom scrolling, all the advice
you're bombarded with is like, which is

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the how do I optimize?

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What's the best thing?

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Which supplement is the perfect one?

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And how much sleep and how much do I need
to lift and how often fucking just do

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something right?

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Like, start anywhere get curious about how
can I

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Can I get to bed 20 minutes earlier
tonight?

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Can I sleep in 10 minutes later tomorrow?

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Can I add a glass of water to my routine?

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Whatever, just little crap.

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It is remarkable how much it builds up.

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And for me anyways, it's been building
communities played a big part.

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Just having like -minded people to help
push you toward whatever the thing is that

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you're trying to accomplish.

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If you're stuck with the same people that,
I mean, you use the term holding you back.

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That's a part of it.

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I mean, I think there are people that
can't hold us back.

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But if you are on this journey with
somebody, if you are alone, right, like

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you're the man in the arena, you're doing
this thing by yourself, you can make your

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time a little more.

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You can devote the time you want to the
things you want to devote it to.

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But when there is suddenly a partner, a
wife, a husband, whatever, kids, you have

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to make those choices of what gets my
time.

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Can this thing wait?

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And a lot of times, at least for me, I
think for a lot of guys, we tend to put

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our stuff later.

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Let's take care of everybody else first.

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And I just know that surrounding myself
with people that are pushing towards

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something better, pushing towards
healthier, has been huge.

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And I know...

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I know I'm going to butcher this quote.

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I'm not probably not going to be able to
finish it.

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But I remember my therapist talking about
like, if you want to go somewhere fast, go

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alone.

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If you want to go somewhere that matters,
like go with people.

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It's something like that where like, yeah,
you can go farther faster alone.

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But if you want people to be on the
journey with you, it's going to take a

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little longer because there are just more
variables to account for in your day and

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your life to make sure that everyone's
needs are met, not just yours.

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Yep, absolutely.

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You hit on something there that really
struck me too.

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It was like...

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If you know you need to do something and
like your doom scrolling, I mean, I added

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up the other day the number and cost of
the things that I was convinced I needed

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for my bed.

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So I'm sure everyone's seeing like I'm
getting bombarded with like the grounding

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sheets for your bed.

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My girlfriend runs.

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Cold and I run warm.

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So I'm like, well, here's a you know a
thing for the bed You can put it on and

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like you can keep one side warm and the
other side Cold I think I added up like

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all of these different products for like
just for the bed was it was something like

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$12 ,000 worth of stuff and And every
single one of them I found myself sitting

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there.

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that'll solve with the world hunger.

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That'll solve world They'll solve all my
issues if I'm just grounded or Go for a

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fucking walk

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Right?

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Right?

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Like, when all of this stuff is hitting
you, like, what's the most basic, simple

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thing that you can go do?

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Like, literally, go for a walk, and at
some point during that walk, take your

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shoes off.

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Or, you know, some, like, there you go.

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You just got the benefit of, yeah.

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the walk when you're ready to level up.

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Take your shoes off for a minute.

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Exactly.

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So I, and I, and I forget that like, I
mean, you know me, right?

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It's, you know, whatever's the coolest,
latest data centric, whatever.

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Like I'm like,

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optimize so that nothing's left on the
table.

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mean, I'm all in.

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I've got, you know, I've got my Apple
watch tracking on my left wrist and I've

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got a whoop band on my right wrist and my
bed, my, the bed that I do have actually

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does track all of my sleep and I've got a
ring that I wear as well.

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So when I'm sleeping, I have four things
tracking all of my stuff.

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So like I get super complicated.

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I get like to that, but just go for a
fucking walk.

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Like, I mean, even take it a step back
further, like go walk out on the front

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porch and just breathe fresh air.

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Right.

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when you're getting all that stuff and I
get it too and like you're sitting there

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and you're like, I want to be better.

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I want to be better.

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And I don't know where to start.

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Like it is simple as that.

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Go outside, take, take a deep breath and
walk around the block.

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There's a great quote from Ryan Holiday.

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I think he says something like, you know,
taking a walk won't solve all of life's

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problems, but it certainly won't hurt.

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No, it definitely doesn't hurt.

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And honestly, I have found that all of
these big things that I wanna do that I'm

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scared of, or I don't know if it's gonna
work, or it's, you know, just, you know,

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ambitious, too ambitious, right?

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Once I start small, like it makes me a
little bit more comfortable to do that.

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Like if I can go successfully do a walk
around the block, then I'll come back and

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be like, I probably could have run that.

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And then you run it and you're like, you
know, I guess I could, you know, ride 10

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times around on my bike and do that.

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Like it just, it all builds on each other.

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So if you just start at that bottom step,
like you'll take another step, you'll take

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another step.

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But have you ever seen that picture where
it's two ladders?

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And it's, you know, one guy standing at
the left one and the rungs of the ladder

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are like a hundred feet apart.

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And then the neck, the one to the right of
it, like the rungs are like inches apart.

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Right.

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And you see tons and tons of people
climbing the other one and the guy's just

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standing at the bottom of the other one.

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That's what I'm picturing right now is
like, you can't try and jump to, you know,

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you can't outfit your bed as a Tesla.

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Right.

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Just go for a walk.

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That's that's coming next year.

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But I will say yes, totally agree with
you.

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But but also I also think you're capable
of more than you think you are.

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Maybe not you, because you think you're
capable of quite a bit.

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But for most people listening, right, I
think they are capable of more than they

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think they are.

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And again, using myself as an example, I
started trail running like a month ago

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and, you know, the guy that was inviting
me like I was picturing, we'll walk for a

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few weeks and then we'll add a few minutes
of a jog here and there.

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No, like.

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Like the first run we ran and the next run
we ran a little further, like literally

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the next run.

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And had I gone out there by myself and
said, Hey, I think I'm going to start this

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trail running thing.

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This will be really fun.

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That's the approach I would have taken.

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I would have walked for a month and then,
you know, incorporated a little bit of a

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jog toward the end.

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Like I would have gone super slow, but
because I, again, I have somebody in my

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community in my circle going, no, we can
do that.

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Let's go.

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And if it's hard, we'll stop.

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No big deal.

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But it pushed me out of that comfort zone,
pushed me beyond the limits that I thought

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I had to discover that I don't have them
and in fact can go much farther than I

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thought I could.

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So yes, take the small steps, but like if
you're not the kind of person to push

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yourself beyond your comfort zone, find
someone who will, but can do it gently so

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that you can discover that you're actually
capable of a lot more than you think you

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are.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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I see this all the time at the gym with
myself, like just in like, you know,

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weightlifting or something like that.

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And, you know, coach will just come by and
my favorite story ever was one of the

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coaches at the gym.

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We were doing something and I grabbed a
pair of dumbbells and I was like, I think

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that's good.

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That's good.

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And we had to do whatever it was like
eight times.

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And like you do it and then you take a
rest and you do it and take a rest.

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And like I did it once.

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And the look the coach gave me, she would
like,

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She was like, had that like, shitty and
grin on her face and she was shaking her

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head.

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And I finished it and she walked over with
dumbbells that were like twice as heavy

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and put them on the ground and she's like,
you're gonna use these.

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And I was like, So definitely surrounding
yourself with people who are gonna push

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you is, I mean, yeah, sometimes I avoid
that.

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Sometimes I just wanna go for the walk.

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Yeah, and there's a place where there's
plenty of times when I go into the gym and

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whatever the robot tells me if I can do
that today, cool.

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But there's like yesterday, no, two days
ago when I was in last, everything that

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was on my list, I was like, I can do more
than that and just pushed like five or 10

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heavier and was able to do it.

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And I was like, see, sometimes you just
need a little shove.

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You need to just try.

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Can I do a little more than this?

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But, you know, tell me that seven months
ago.

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Seven months ago, I didn't want to go out
the door, right?

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Like depressed, miserable, felt like
everything was was at the end.

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But because

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a comment that like, when you sent me the
picture and said, I'm a trail runner now,

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like I very genuinely laughed in like a
positive way for you because seven months

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ago I was like, I don't know where this is
going.

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And now you're like, you know, cold
plunging every day, trail running, because

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again, going back to it, you're doing all
the things.

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You're doing all the little things and it
builds and you gotta be consistent.

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So hey, if no one has told you, I am proud
of you and seeing a transformation in you

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going from, again, I mean, you weren't
bottom of the barrel, you were close.

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I'm just kidding.

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But you...

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scared out of my mind.

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You've made such transformation just like
again doing all the things that we talk

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about on the show So like you are
literally living proof That what we talk

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about works and you can change your whole
life with very small efforts Consistently

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period that's it.

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That's all you got to do

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Man, if only we could sell that.

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We should think about that.

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We should think about that.

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I think we've been thinking about it long
enough, but it's the doing it part that

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keeps getting in the way.

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We can wrap it up there.

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Uhhhh

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How long have you been doing this show?

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talking like six years.

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Ahem.

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Why do you ask?

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In the six years of doing the show,
Jeremy, I think that's probably one of the

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first times I've ever said I'm proud of
you and actually meant it.

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Yeah, I think we both had our moments of
being completely full of shit, but but

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I'll take that one.

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Thank you.

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But yeah, I think that's enough of us for
this week.

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Thank you so much for listening.

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If you've gotten any value out of this
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may as well, please hit that share button
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reach more people that just need a push in
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happier life.

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You can do that today at the fit mess dot
com.

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And that's where we'll be back next week
with a brand new episode.

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Thanks for listening.

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See you, everyone.

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go.

436
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Do you wanna do an intro on it or do you
just wanna?

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Either way, what do you think?

438
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I don't know, maybe we should just keep it
at, I don't know.

439
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I was listening to a couple of other shows
too and they're just like, they play their

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intro music and they're like, and anyway,
so blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,

441
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blah, blah,

442
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what I've been doing is I take the
transcript from this and I throw it

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through all the AI and when it comes up
with the show description, I've just been

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reading that and putting that on the front
of it.

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So I can just do that.

446
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So all right.

447
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I don't.

448
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Describe it's available through descript,
but I'm actually gonna stop recording.