Why Sometimes You Need To Just Say Fuck It

0:00 Most self -help podcasts tell you how to get a little bit better every single day. Today we're going to tell you not to do a fucking thing Stick around to find out why today, maybe you should just say fuck it. So Zach, I don't know if you know this about me, but occasionally when I head into the gym and I'm lifting the heavy things, there's a lot of downtime, right? You're just sitting there on the bench waiting for your minute rest to go by or whatever.

0:43 That's what I like to jump into the social media and see what people are doing. I'm by myself in the gym, so the only social interaction I get is online. So there I was looking at threads the other day, and I saw a post that I thought was interesting that I thought we should talk about, and it's from somebody who's, they go by EmilyDean .photography, but they said, Today my therapist reminded me of the importance of fuck it days. Days where you aren't constantly monitoring yourself for growth and progress. Days where you let yourself just be and exist. Wow, fucking day. I've had the last couple of months, I've had a couple of fucking weeks. think I had like 40 fuck it years is kind of the boy got me into this mess. Yeah, and now they're a thing you have to plan for?

1:25 Is it? So why don't do you have to plan? I mean, if you're planning it, you're sort of defeating the purpose of just saying, Fuck it. Well, I don't know about that. I think it's, it's a, okay, I like the concept. I love it. And I've had those days and they usually come up when I don't, like, I just don't have anything else. Like there's, I didn't plan it. However, they are few and far between. I don't know, maybe a couple, a couple more f****g days out there would be more beneficial to me. And in that case, I would have to plan at least to have the day, right? Because, I'd have to cancel meetings and tell people I'm not gonna respond and like, and just free up the calendar, right?

2:07 Because, you know, like you, there's, you know, 30 ,000 other people depending on me to do things for them. And yeah, I think you'd have to plan it a little bit, but I like the concept of I'm just gonna take a day and whatever fucking happens, happens. I guess it depends on how far you want to go with the fuck it. I mean, if it's literally like work responsibilities, family responsibilities, like all of the stuff, I'm just taking it off the table. Yeah, you got to plan that. But I mean, you can have a fuck it daylight, right? Where it's like you just sort of wake up and you're like, you know what? Today, I'm not going to worry about what I'm going to eat today. I'm not going to worry if I get my 10 ,000 steps in like you can. You can apply those things. But I also think there's a danger of going down a slippery slope of all of a sudden like, this is easy living.

2:51 I don't have to keep track of this. What if I also don't keep track of that? And all of a sudden, six months later, you're just a blob of a shell of a person you used to be. A blob of a shell of a person. All I can think of is the people floating around in chairs in the movie Wall -E. Right? we're aiming for, right? We just don't want to end up the people in Wall -E. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I know. I've definitely had days like that. And even on days where I have to work, right? I know I've definitely done it unconsciously where I just don't try as hard. Where you just need that, like, you get a couple of things done that you need to get done and you don't push.

3:36 You don't, you just don't push yourself the way you normally do. And those days are usually really good for me. I've had a lot of those days recently where I go like two or three days of like 90 miles an hour, nonstop from 5 .30 in the morning to 8 .30 at night with all the things. And then I just like hit the bed and I'm just like, what the fuck just happened today? But I've had a bunch of days in the past, like I've been doing like three or four days of that. And then all of a sudden Friday, I'm like, I just need to calm down and relax, not do that. Like take an extra hour at the gym, like, you know, go work out and then stretch, big air quotes here, stretch, roll around on the floor for another 45 minutes.

4:23 With my eyes closed half the time. It's funny when you do take this approach to things and I've done it a couple of times. Most recently yesterday I was just in the gym and I went in, you know, dealing with this this injury and kind of trying to let myself off the hook a little bit of, you know, don't worry about what's on the bar. Just lift what you can that doesn't hurt that sort of thing. But it was funny how like lowering my expectations, I actually outperformed what I would have thought I would have otherwise done because I just went in with like no rules. I can do whatever feels good today and I actually. did more than I expected. And I think that maybe sometimes the bar that I set for myself is so high that the pressure gets in the way of actually accomplishing it, where if I just kind of go, this is just for fun, this is just for me, I'm just doing this because I want to, It tends to pay off for